Friday, November 30, 2007

For Samuel

In leiu of my regularly scheduled post today, I have very sad news.

Please pray for our dear friends T3 and Mr. T3. T3 delivered a baby boy this morning, Samuel Thomas, who died shortly after. The parents were able to hold him for a few minutes but his heart rate was very low.

You may remember when T3 had SJ last December. I know that she has felt the stress of this pregnancy so please pray for them as they continue to raise her and hope for another healthy baby in their future. In addition to this. They had a couple of miscarriages before having SJ.

Rev. H and his family (T3's parents) have been so wonderful to me, and also to J since the day I brought him home. They've taken care of me since I was a child and even opened their house to let me live with them for a while. They've adopted me into their family and J as well. We can't imagine a holiday without them. Rev. H married J and I and T3 sang at our wedding (T1 and T2 sang at our wedding too).

I get so angry to hear this news. How is it crack addicts can have babies everyday? Teenage girls manage to get knocked-up all the time. Babies are found discarded in trash cans or abused and killed because they're not wanted. How is it this can happen yet two of the most wonderful parents you could ever find can't manage to have a healthy child that they want to love and raise?

That aside, my heart is breaking to hear this news. I can't imagine how they must be feeling. They've been so strong and prayerful through this pregnancy but that doesn't make the grieving any easier. I'm at such a loss of words (and actions for that matter) for my dear friends. What do you possibly do or say to someone who has just lost their baby?

Please keep them in your prayers.

12 comments:

JayJenny said...

Sometimes life is difficult to comphrehend. I'm sorry for their loss and hope that with prayers and the love of their friends and family that they can begin to heal. My heart is with you and the family...

Kristen Miller said...

I'm with Jenny. A loss like that is hard to even comprehend. I'm so sad to hear that this has happened. I'll keep them and all of you in my prayers. I have no idea the kind of strength it will take to heal from this. All you can do is be there for them and continue to show them love and support. I'm so sorry.

Kas said...

How awful. I'll keep your friends in my prayers.

And I'm with you. Life is so crazy sometimes, and it never makes sense.

Robin said...

Just do your best to be there for them & let your friend know you're hear to listen to her...but then let her come to you...

I was only 12 weeks along when we lost our baby, but it was horrible. Our friends sent us flowers, which was very thoughtful & very much appreciated. I didn't want to talk to anyone, so getting flowers let me know they were thinking about me & Matt.

I'm so, so sorry for their loss...and especially during the hoildays. No time is a "right" time to lose a baby & it's so hard to understand why these things happen, but they do...and that's the part of life that really sucks.

brittny said...

That hurts my heart. I'm so sorry for your friend's loss, and she will definitely be in my prayers. I can't even begin to imagine their pain. I'm glad they have friends likeyou...

Kelley said...

I worked at a hospital last year for my internship and I worked with a pregnancy and infant loss group. There should be one where you live that they could attend. I know at ours, the fathers didn't come as much, but the mothers brought friends or family. The main thing that I heard from the group was to not pretend like it didn't happen. For most, they want to talk and want support, but they aren't going to go ask for it. People don't like to talk with them about it because they don't want to make them cry, but for the most part, they want to talk about the baby that they lost. There is a lot of support out there on the internet with groups and they can suggest books, and also a lot of churches or hospitals do special remembering ceremonies, especially around the holidays. Be there for them, that's the best thing that you can do. I am really sorry for their loss, and they will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Michelle said...

I agree with the other 2 ladies above. I'm not sure there is much that you can say...a loss like that is beyond what any family should have to endure. Let them know that you are there for them and check in on them often to let them know you care. This is heartbreaking news...I understand your anger. My prayers go out to you as well as them.

Christy said...

Sorry to hear about your friends baby.

Alicia said...

They are so lucky to have friends like you and J. They will definitely be in my prayers.

Platinum Rose said...

Oh wow, I am so very sorry to hear this news. I said a prayer for them just now. You're right, this world, sometimes doeesn't make a BIT of sense. Life is definitely not fair, and definitely hard! My heart aches for them.

Cakabaker said...

My BIL & SIL had a baby boy that was still born after she carried him the full term.
Just be there for them, to talk to/cry to/vent to. You don't even have to say or do anything, just be there. It helps more than words can say.

You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Rusti said...

I'm sorry I'm just now reading this, I am so sorry that your friends had to have this happen Mrs. M... it's more than any parent should have to bear. I'm glad they have friends like you to provide support, comfort, and just be there when you're needed. I'll be keeping all of you in my prayers throughout the days and weeks ahead. {hugs}