Tuesday, June 12, 2007

I do believe this defines tacky

Two weeks ago I received a wedding invitation. Via Facebook.

Say it with me friends: TACKY!

The invitation was from a guy whom I was friends with in college. We both were in the same group of friends for several years. I graduated in four years (what was I thinking? I should have crammed my four years into five or six!) and most of them hung around for fifth, sixth (and seventh) years. We drifted apart as we graduated/moved/married/etc. and only occasionally chatted through messages on the above or other social networking sites. I never sent said person a wedding invitation or anything. In fact there is only one person from said group that is a friend today, likewise, I'm the only one that she is friends with as well. Not that the others aren't friends, but more of acquaintances now. Once we graduated, etc. I realized the only thing had in common with most of them was college.

As I looked at the invitation with disbelief I realized he apparently feels about 400 other people are fabulous friends who get the rocking Facebook invites. As I browsed through the list I realized we knew several people in common whom I didn't associate with him. I suppose he's as good of friends with them as he is me.

I won't be sending a gift. Had I gotten a proper invitation, I'd have at least sent a gift. However in this situation I suppose my thinking is one rude gesture deserves another. I know I know, my Southern manners are slipping. But seriously, a Facebook invite? I didn't even check the NO box on the screen. I refused to even acknowledge the dreadful thing.

Have any of you had similar situations? What do you think about sending such invites via online means?

9 comments:

Angelarae said...

Ummm, let me begin with "WOW".

Now, I've sent an "Hey, we're having a BBQ" invite via Evite, along with casual "Christmas Party" invited, but a WEDDING INVITATION via FACEBOOK. Now that's just BAD taste. I'd do the same, ignore it and not send a present. Wow.

Angela
angelaraew.blogspot.com

Alicia said...

seriously? facebook?
holy crap! I would do the same thing. I mean really....I'm pretty sure I am now speechless, lol.

Happy Girl said...

I agree. That is really odd for someone to send invites that way.

I wouldn't go or send a gift either!

JayJenny said...

OMG, tacky is right!

Swistle said...

I've received online invitations to casual get-togethers, but nothing more formal than "We're going bowling! Wanna come?" A wedding invitation, now that's fresh. I'm not sure what I'd do. Probably check "no" (just so it wouldn't "remind" me) but not send any other response.

Lola's *mom* said...

When I was planning my wedding I read about a trend where people were beginning to email wedding invites out. I'm sorry, but I can't imagine emailing someone about the biggest day of your life! Same for facebook, myspace, blog, etc. It seems a little cold.

The only 2 possiblities here are: 1.) he's a guy and totally doesn't care and/or 2.) he's trying to save $$ but comes off looking pretty cheap.

Kimba said...

Wow, this is a whole new low to the definition of "bad etiquette"! Casual get-togethers are fine via evites, but a wedding! I suspect the dress code is shorts & t-shirts too! UGH!

BlondeMomBlog (Jamie) said...

I'm so old I didn't even know what Facebook was until recently. I'm just hip (ha ha) to MySpace. One my coworkers insists I set up a MySpace account. Little does she know I have a blog. Mwwaaa haa haa haa.

But yes that is tacky!

Platinum Rose said...

DEFINITELY TACKY! The closest I come to a "tacky" situation was getting an invitation like 1 week before the wedding, and the wedding was somewhere in Europe. Yea right, like I am going to be able to make those arrangements in 1 week's time, let alone for someone I hadn't seen or spoken to in about 4 years! I honestly think she just sent it to get a gift. Which I did NOT send to her.